Before you know what kindness really is
You must lose things,
Feel the future dissolve in a moment
Like salt in a weakened broth
Naomi Shihah Nye “Kindness”
Chris Bohjalian has, in the preface to his book, Before You Know Kindness, this quote, as well as one from The Secret Garden. As much as the title and quote perplexed me the entirety of the novel, and through my reading discussion group, the story was quite straight-forward.
I enjoyed the writing style, I enjoyed the characters, and even enjoyed the treatment of their issues. And what a smorgasbord of issues! Sex, money, power, love, and jealousy spring immediately to my mind, followed by neglect, misguided loyalties, non-disclosure, self-harm, fear of death, and guilt.
You’d think from a list like that Bohjalian would have needed a few more characters! The matriarch, Nan Seton, as vigorous as she was, was very much the weak broth. I was disappointed not to discover more about her purpose, as she was set up so well. Her two children, John and Catherine, and their spouses, Sara and Spencer, rounded out the adults. Each couple had one daughter. John and Sara also had a newborn son. He had no speaking lines.
However, it is the use of gardens that will most likely be the keeper. Spencer is vegan. Spencer also grows a garden and gets his arm nearly shot off by Charlotte, his 12-year-old daughter. The idea of Eden continues to emerge, then reemerge. There are so many big ideas that continually point to Christian teaching that it was nearly surprising. How a garden can bring healing for one and destruction for another is a powerful contrast. One person in my reading group flat out asked, “What is kindness?” then, while we were there, threw in “And what is forgiveness?” Before long we’d gone over grace, Jesus, Adam and Eve, light on a hill, and salt, too.
Finally, one of many difficult statements Jesus made is being given some serious and fascinating treatment. It is better for a man to cut off his hand than to keep it if it causes him to sin. Alright, I know that Spencer’s shoulder did not cause him to sin. Getting it blown apart did make him have to start listening, though. Spencer had to pause and look to those around him; his sudden insufficiency made him whole. Better to lose an arm than the wife and child you love more than anything.
